Whatever your goals may be, know that they don’t have to be hard. And know that you don’t always have to fight for them.

Go where you are loved, where your dreams can actually come true, where you can naturally flourish into the person you are meant to be.

The secret isn’t to fight, but to choose. Understand this and you’ll already have the keys to a better life.

Choose your environment

In the right environment, all your ambitions, all your goals, and all your desires can come true provided they are not totally unrealistic.

Yes, your own attitude and willpower tend to determine your results. But here’s the paradox — both attitude and willpower can change according to the environment.

This is why the smartest people are those who use their environment in their favor, and if they are in the wrong environment, then they either move or create a new one.

If you let your circumstances determine the quality of your thoughts, actions, feelings, and life in general, then that’s a bit of a lazy approach, and it won’t guarantee anything.

If you try to control the quality of your thoughts, actions, feelings, and life in general despite your situation, that’s a better attitude for sure, but it may require a lot of work and effort.

What if there was a third way, or approach, where you create or choose the type of environment that is aligned with your desires and ambitions (and mental health)?

This is by far the best approach because it doesn’t require tons of effort or willpower and yet it puts you into a situation in which it would be hard not to get what you want in life.

Don’t fight for what’s not yours

Here’s another idea I’d like you to consider: if you have to really fight for someone or something, it probably means that it’s not meant for you, or that it doesn’t belong to you.

Now, there are exceptions. But I have found this to be the general rule. Think: if what you want requires unbelievable amounts of effort (that is, inner or outer work that drains energy), then is it really yours?

Suppose you’re trying to fit in, to win someone’s approval, to convince them, to get something from them. If this requires you to change or go against your fundamental nature, then what’s the point?

Wouldn’t it be smarter to simply go where you are loved — to go where what you want is given to you, naturally, without it being some very time-consuming, complex process?

If your desires are truly yours and reflect your true nature, then I guarantee there’s a place out there (or a person, or group of people) that can make them come true.

Go where you are loved

So, here’s the take-home message: you can deliberately choose to go where you are loved, valued, and appreciated. And you should.

  • Unhappy in your current circle of friends, despite your attitude? Know that there is one out there in which you will be loved.
  • Unhappy in your relationship, despite your attitude? Know that the loving, caring person you’re looking for is out there.
  • Unhappy in your job or career? Know that there is more out there. Etc.

And before this sounds “too good to be true”, let me make it clear — nothing will ever be 100 percent effortless, and you probably won’t find the environment or people you’re looking for instantly.

However, what if the shift, or transition, is faster than you think? What if that special person or opportunity is right in front of you, yet you’re so identified with the past you are blinded by it?

You are allowed to change and you are allowed to move (literally and metaphorically). You are not a tree; you don’t have roots. Choose the best because you deserve the best.

Go where you are loved: quotes

You don’t have to force something that’s meant to be. If you have to fight and struggle too hard and too long, it’s not meant to be yours. Know when to let go.

Tony Gaskins

Our environment shapes us. Choose wisely your surroundings and the people in it.

Luis Castillo

If you love somebody, let them go, for if they return, they were always yours. And if they don’t, they never were.

Khalil Gibran

The only person that deserves a special place in your life is someone that never made you feel like you were an option in theirs.

Shannon L. Alder

Don’t be afraid to give up the good to go for the great.

John Rockefeller

True love is not a hide and seek game. In true love, both lovers seek each other.

Michael Bassey Johnson

I think it’s important to get your surroundings as well as yourself into a positive state — meaning, surround yourself with positive people, not the kind who are negative and jealous of everything you do.

Heidi Klum

If someone wants you in their life, they’ll put you there. You shouldn’t have to fight for a spot.


Our environments shape the way we see ourselves.

Alan Moore

Be careful of the environment you choose, for it will shape you; be careful of the friends you choose, for you will become like them.

W. Clement Stone

As many an architect will tell you, human behavior changes according to the environment.

Peter Gabriel

Never make someone a priority when all you are to them is an option.

Maya Angelou

Go where you are loved. Stay where it’s consistent.