Even within one person, yesterday and today, there are differences. We must look at a deeper level.

— Dalai Lama

Sometimes, someone’s worth or character matches their outer appearance perfectly.

But in most cases, we need to be very careful and take time to think before we jump to conclusions — negative or positive.

We should never judge a book by its cover, and I’m sure you can think of a time in which your first impression of someone (or something) turned out to be completely inaccurate.

Judging others and making assumptions about them is one of our natural behaviors as human beings, but it’s not always helpful…

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Why do we judge others so quickly?

Why do most people tend to “judge a book by its cover”?

The list of possible reasons is endless, but the most common reason is surprisingly simple — we tend to judge others by their appearance because it’s easier to do so.

And in some cases, it may even be the only option available to us.

Ideally, every interaction with another human being would last long enough and we would have enough time to get to know them, find out who they truly are, and discover their unique story.

But in reality, that’s not always possible, therefore we may have to rely on first impressions, looks, and the outer surface.

After all, we do need to have a general idea of who the other person is — whether that’s accurate or inaccurate — even though the amount of information we have is often very limited.

First impressions are often unreliable

Never judge a book by its cover

With that in mind, it’s important to learn not to be judgemental all the time.

We should be aware that judging others is one of our natural reactions (which can actually be pretty useful at times), but at the same time learn to silence our thoughts about someone we don’t know when those thoughts don’t help us, or them, in any way.

And even if we think we know the other person very well — there’s always going to be things about them, their personal life, their inner demons, and their struggles, that we can’t know or understand.

By judging a person by his or her cover, we also miss the opportunity to get to know them.

We no longer use our curiosity; we fail to interact with them spontaneously simply because we’ve already decided that they’re this or that thing.

So even though judging someone by our first impression of them is the easiest route, it rarely adds value into our life.

Now, don’t get me wrong — sometimes first impressions are vital, especially if you are gifted with good intuition.

If someone clearly gives you bad vibes, you should listen to that, and there’s probably no need to gather any further information about them; you just know.

However, in general, you should remind yourself that you are in no position to judge them, especially if you don’t really know them.


Never judge a book by its cover quotes

It is certainly true that you can’t judge a book by its cover, nor can you judge a book by its first chapter — even if that chapter is twenty years long.

— Gregory Boyle

Beautiful is he who recognizes what is truly beautiful, even if the surface is ugly.

— Suzy Kassem

Things are not always what they seem; the first appearance deceives many; the intelligence of a few perceives what has been carefully hidden.

— Plato

The same way we don’t judge a book by its cover, we shouldn’t judge people by their looks.

— Eva Garcia

Sometimes people are beautiful. Not in looks. Not in what they say. Just in what they are.

— Markus Zusak

If your appearance is all people see, they have no respect for your mind.

— Trudi Canavan

My theory about meeting people — he said — is that it’s better not to make a really good first impression. Because it’s all downhill from there. You’re always having to live up to that first impression, which was just an illusion.

— Lisa Kleypas

Never judge someone — by the way he looks — or a book by the way it’s covered; for inside those tattered pages, — there’s a lot to be discovered.

— Stephen Cosgrove

Don’t judge people by their covers, most of their books are still being written.

— Unknown

Even within one person, yesterday and today, there are differences. We must look at a deeper level.

— Dalai Lama

Many times I have learned that you never judge a book by its cover. Like people, it is the inside that counts.

— Shannon Hale

Don’t look for a partner who is eye candy. Look for a partner who is soul food.

— Karen Salmansohn

Look beneath the surface; let not the several quality of a thing nor its worth escape thee.

— Marcus Aurelius

They say you can’t judge a book by its cover. I’ve learned that you can’t judge a man by the one before him, either.

— Adriana Locke

Nobody looks like what they really are on the inside. You don’t. I don’t. People are much more complicated than that. It’s true of everybody.

— Neil Gaiman

Your appearance shouldn’t define who you are, and that’s what I like — the contrast between people looking like the opposite of what they truly are deep inside.

— Matthias Schoenaerts

Don’t judge people quotes

Not judging people is the fastest way to peace.

— Jonathan Jackson

If you are pained by external things, it is not they that disturb you, but your own judgement of them. And it is in your power to wipe out that judgement now.

— Marcus Aurelius

Judging is preventing us from understanding a new truth. Free yourself from the rules of old judgements and create the space for new understanding.

— Steve Maraboli

The least amount of judging we can do, the better off we are.

— Michael J. Fox

We judge ourselves by our intentions. And others by their actions.

— Stephen Covey

Judging others makes us blind, whereas love is illuminating. By judging others we blind ourselves to our own evil and to the grace which others are just as entitled to as we are.

— Dietrich Bonhoeffer

Be curious, not judgemental.

— Walt Whitman

Judging a person does not define who they are; it defines who you are.

— Wayne Dyer

If you judge people you have no time to love them.

— Mother Teresa

Often I have asked myself: what would it be like if I no longer had any desire to judge another? Or be controlled by the judgement of others? I would walk the earth as a very light person indeed.

— Henri Nouwen

Anyone can find the dirt in someone. Be the one that finds the gold.

— Proverbs 11:27

The more a man judges, the less he loves.

— Honoré de Balzac

Short never judge a book by its cover quotes

First appearance deceives many.

— Ovid

My whole outlook in life is: never judge a book by its cover.

— Floyd Mayweather

We should look to the mind, and not to the outward appearance.

— Aesop

Judge a man by his questions rather than his answers.

— Voltaire

First impressions are always unreliable.

— Franz Kafka

Do not judge by appearances; a rich heart may be under a poor coat.

— Proverb

All that glitters is not gold.

— William Shakespeare

I believe inner beauty is beauty in its truest form.

— Paula Abdul

Appearance is valued too much in our society.

— Claude Lelouch

Beauty comes in all forms. It’s not just external; it’s internal as well.

— Alessia Cara

Don’t judge a book by its cover until you’ve read the book.

— Jamie Lee Curtis

Appearances are often deceiving.

— Aesop

Do you tend to judge others who think or behave differently than you do? Leave a reply below and let me know! 👇