What does “pure intentions” mean?
The expression is commonly used in relationships, and it refers to the intention to love in a way that is unconditional and selfless.
Someone with pure intentions loves genuinely and regardless of what the other person may think of them. There are no expectations, no ulterior motives, and no need for control.
That itself is a good enough definition, but in today’s post we’ll have a look at pure intentions from the point of view of Reality Transurfing (if you have no idea what that means, no worries).
We will also see how intentions that are “purified” can lead to fulfillment in relationships as well as in all other areas of your life.
Without further ado…
Pure intentions in Reality Transurfing
Reality… what? For those who don’t know, it’s a term coined by Vadim Zeland (although he says the word just “came to him”).
The meaning of Transurfing can be interpreted as “gliding through the alternatives space”, or “transforming potential alternatives into reality”, or “shifting across life lines”.Vadim Zeland
This probably makes it even more confusing. But in a nutshell, Transurfing is a series of techniques aimed at shaping your own reality by following the path of least resistance.
One of the fundamental principles of Transuring is that everything in the universe strives for balance and harmony, and that wherever there is a clear imbalance certain forces will work against you.
So then rather than fighting against reality, or trying to impose your own will on it, the smartest approach is that in which all your thoughts, actions, and feelings are “pure” and do not generate any imbalance in the energy field.
Intention is pure when free of desire, fear, doubt, and other importance potentials.Vadim Zeland
Excess potential represents tension, a localized disturbance in an otherwise stable energy field. The irregularity is created by thought energy when an object is attributed excessive and disproportionate meaning.Vadim Zeland
Desire represents an example of excess potential (…). Other examples (…) include dissatisfaction, blame, admiration, worship, idealization, overevaluation, contempt, vanity, and likewise feelings of superiority, inferiority, and guilt.Vadim Zeland
Pure intentions in goal setting
“Dreams don’t come true”. The author writes it quite a few times in the book.
The idea is to convince the reader of the fact that, despite what we might have been told, chances of achieving success decrease if your desire is intense.
Why is this? Because according to Transurfing, desire is just the same as doubt, fear, indecisiveness, guilt, or overconfidence.
You would agree that if you are too indecisive, or if you are afraid of achieving the goal you are trying to pursue, that would lower chances of success dramatically.
Well, it turns out that desire, from an energetic point of view, is a very similar feeling. Desire makes the goal seem important and distant, often to the point where it becomes unattainable.
Your actions will be effective to the degree that you manage to purify inner intention from desire and importance.Vadim Zeland
You have to maintain balanced intention, which means to want without desiring, to take care without worrying, to strive without being distracted, and to act without demanding.Vadim Zeland
There should be the pure intention to act, not the desire to act. This requires reducing the levels of inner and outer importance you associate with the goal.Vadim Zeland
Pure intention never creates excess potential. (…) It is like an almost accomplished fact. It is the calm realization that something will come into being.Vadim Zeland
So, how do you use this to your advantage? The concepts explained in Reality Transurfing are too many and often too complex for me to sum them up in a few paragraphs here.
But in short, if you strongly desire something and you have made it your main goal, be consciously aware of the emotions generated by your desire.
Does your desire create an invisible wall between you and your goal? And what about the goal itself? If it seems unreachable, that will probably be the case.
Think of desire as if it was the same as fear. Just like fear can easily lead to self sabotage and failure, desire pushes you further away from success.
Of course, you should be excited about your dreams and goals. Of course, you should be taking action toward them.
But according to Transurfing, this should be done in a calm, relaxed manner; as if the goal was part of your life already.
Had you already achieved what you want in life, there would be no desire. You would enjoy life, but there would be no desire because your goal would truly belong to you. See the difference?
Pure intentions in relationships
Love that is unconditional, that comes from the heart and that serves no purpose other than that of the heart — is “pure” and therefore does not generate imbalance.
If the intention to love is pure and comes from the heart, then it’s much more likely that the other person will love you as well and that the relationship will be fulfilling for both.
However, should you not be loved back, that won’t cause any significant problems either because your love is pure, that is, not based on any feelings of inferiority, lack, guilt, etc.
Love that is not pure leads to imbalance; imbalance leads to either codependency (or “dependent” relationships) or no relationship in the first place.
Dependent relationships are defined by a statement of condition such as: “if you do this, then I will do this”. “If you love me you would drop everything and come to the edge of the world with me.”Vadim Zeland
When love is transformed into a dependent relationship, polarization occurs, and balance is destroyed.Vadim Zeland
When there is a contradiction, balanced forces will inevitably get involved. The action of balanced forces is aimed at either dragging the subjects of contradiction apart or bringing them together in mutual agreement or in collision.Vadim Zeland
If your intention is not pure (in love, or when pursuing a goal), then what the author calls “balanced forces” will either separate you and your object of desire or even out the situation.
And you really don’t want balanced forces to even things out simply because the forces are not interested in anyone’s wellbeing; they simply act so that harmony is restored.
One of the examples mentioned in the book is that if you stand on the edge of a cliff and feel intense fear, that intensity represents an imbalance.
How can balanced forces even that out, then? By letting you fall down. A bit of an extreme example maybe, but it illustrates how destructive your own feelings can be.
The bottom line
An intention is pure when free of desire, fear, doubt, and other importance potentials.Vadim Zeland
Is your object of desire very important to you? Paradoxically, this makes it harder for you to get it; and if you do get it, chances are it won’t last.
Any feeling that originates from excessive importance (inner or outer) creates an imbalance in the energetic field, and “balanced forces” get involved.
Sounds absurd? Think of a moment in your life in which life finally gave you what you had been wanting so intensely and for so long.
Right before it happened, was there intense desire? Or the calm realization that it was going to happen?
Isn’t it true that we often get things when we no longer want them?
Why? Because at that point, the intention to have is finally pure — purified of excessive desire, fear, or a sense of superiority or inferiority (inner or outer importance).
When your intention is pure, the universe “agrees” and eventually gives you what you intend to have.