The universe doesn’t hate you (even when you think it does).
However, spend enough time thinking about life being unfair, or the universe picking on you, or some greater power going against you, and that’s what your reality will look like.
So before you have a look at the seven reasons, here is the message — break the pattern. Whatever negative thoughts you have about your reality, change them.
I used to suffer from severe depression; it lasted over a year. I was stuck in an emotional black hole where I would experience the same negative thoughts over and over again, every single day.
Naturally, those thoughts created my mental illness. It was only when I was able to break the pattern that I gradually got out of it.
The same applies to everything else. So whenever you fall into the trap of thinking some greater force hates you — stop!
And give yourself a reality check before you create your own bad luck.
“Why is the universe so unfair?”
The quality of the answers you get in life (including answers from the universe) depends entirely on the type of question that’s being asked.
Unfortunately, “why is the universe so unfair” isn’t a very sensible question because all you’re doing is looking for negative answers.
So here’s a bit of a fun exercise — learn to rephrase your questions, or formulate different ones so you can receive answers that empower you.
At times, life does seem to be unfair. Sometimes you get stuck in a negative series of events (as well as negative thought patterns) and life actually seems like a punishment.
But there is no reason whatsoever to dwell on that. If you make your problems bigger by constantly ruminating, you are only making things worse.
So instead of asking why life or the universe is so unfair, ask better questions.
- What is the lesson that I am supposed to learn?
- What is the purpose of my pain?
- What am I really grateful for, right now?
- What can I do to improve my situation?
- What do I consciously choose to focus on?
- What things am I supposed to let go of?
Why the universe doesn’t hate you
1. It’s about the bigger picture
You don’t know that you don’t know. The universe has a plan for you, but you don’t know yet.
It may take a month, a year, or even a decade. Then you’ll reach that aha moment, that moment when it all finally makes sense.
Life is always about the bigger picture and when you look back and think of past events, I’m sure you can see examples of that.
In the past, you’ve gone through tough times, challenges, difficult phases. Those shaped the old you and turned it into the person you are today.
So why should today be any different? It’s exactly the same. But you don’t know that you don’t know. You must be patient. You must surrender to the universe.
2. You are a creator, not a victim
Now, I’m not going to argue that every single experience in life is the direct result of our own thoughts and actions. No, that would be naive.
However, if you are serious about building a life that’s truly meant for you, you want to shift your mindset from that of a person whose life happens to them, to that of a creator.
It can be difficult. It can be uncomfortable. It’s a lot easier to think that life simply happens to us — at that point, there’s no need to do anything; there is no responsibility.
However, creators have power. As a victim, as someone who asks why the universe hates them, you are powerless. Which one do you choose?
Be a creator; have goals, set mindful intentions, consciously choose to respond to those negative things you cannot control instead of reacting to them.
3. Growth is uncomfortable
The metamorphosis of the butterfly — one of the most fascinating miracles of nature — takes time. Approximately two weeks.
Not only that, try to shorten or accelerate that time period, and there will be no metamorphosis at all: the caterpillar will die.
Growth takes time. Growth is uncomfortable. But it’s the only way. You are what you are becoming.
Whenever you feel the universe hates you, remind yourself that all transformative phases are, naturally, very intense. And often painful.
The universe doesn’t hate you — it wants you to grow, to undergo a true transformation, so you can become who you’re supposed to be.
4. The wrong environment
There is no point in complaining about life or the universe if you’re stuck in the wrong environment.
Abundance can never be experienced in an environment of scarcity; your energy cannot be expressed freely in an environment that blocks it.
Before you try to fix your problems, change your environment — where you live, the people you surround yourself with, the places you visit each day.
It’s easy to blame the universe, in general, but you have to look a lot closer and determine whether you’re in the right place at the right time… or the complete opposite.
5. You are actually lucky
Want to hear the good news? If you are reading this article, chances are you actually belong to an incredibly lucky, incredibly small percentage.
It’s not obvious. It’s not something you should take for granted. We make the mistake of focusing on what we don’t have and we miss what we do have.
That’s a huge mistake. And really, at that point it’s us being unfair. It’s us hating ourselves. Not the universe; not some invisible force.
If we focus on the negative, if we try to prove at all costs that we are unlucky, we never give ourselves the chance to look at the truth and realize it could be a million times worse.
6. Anger and pain have a purpose
Yes, we become what we feed our mind. Yes, we should do our best to cultivate positive thinking. No, we’ll never get to the point where we only have positive emotions.
And that’s not a bad thing by any means. Though you never want to add unnecessary stress and pain to your life, emotions like anger, frustration, sadness, and disappointment do have their place.
So that’s reason number six as to why the universe doesn’t actually hate you — your goal should never be to eliminate “negative” emotions altogether.
Because they can help you become stronger. Smarter. Better. They can be the fuel that drives you toward a new life and a new you.
7. We all go through pain
If you look at history, I don’t think people were ever obsessed about pretending to be happy as much as they are today.
Look at social media. All those exaggerated smiles, fake pictures, and colorful filters. That may seem normal, but that’s far away from normality.
Also: the grass is always greener on the other side. There’s always a part of us that goes, if only I could have that person’s life. It’s human nature.
The truth is that we all go through phases — some of them fabulous, some of them tough. Really tough. Those are the ones we tend to hide; we don’t share them.
The result is that we gradually lose touch with reality and forget what a perfectly normal life looks like.